This one is for all the ladies! Yoni massage is quickly becoming a very popular form of erotic massage.  But what if you are uncomfortable seeing a professional for such an intimate experience?  There are lots of good reasons for seeking out professional support for a Yoni massage, but can you give yourself a Yoni massage at home?  The answer is yes, absolutely you can, and we are here to tell you how! 

Content Warning: this article references sexual abuse and sexual trauma. If these topics are challenging for you, please proceed with caution.

Yoni massage is a term you have probably heard in the last few years, especially in the discourse surrounding female sexuality and self care. (Thank you, Gwyneth Paltrow!) We tend to think of self-care as a new concept and a modern sensibility, but various forms of self-care have been practised all across the globe since the dawn of time.  

One of the most well known but least understood self-care practices is Tantra.  Originating in India  in around 600 AD,  Tantra is one of the oldest and most practiced health and wellness philosophies in the world.  Originally based in the teachings of Hinduism and Buddhism, Tantra has evolved considerably over time, and in some parts of the world has almost been forgotten. Tantra focuses on intentionality, mindfulness, and queen, Authentic Living.  Luckily, to enjoy some of its benefits, you do not have to adhere to any particular spiritual practice. 

Female pleasure and the ‘Tantric Revival’ 

The new millennium has seen a steady increase in interest in systems and practices like Tantra that contribute to overall wellness.  Not surprisingly, Yoni massage has also spiked as more and more women are reframing the way they view their bodies and sexuality.  Creating more interest and awareness in female pleasure is a positive repercussion of what some call the ‘Tantric Revival’.  This term refers to a sort of spiritual and physical Renaissance that includes yoga, holistic and Ayurvedic medicine, meditation, etc., as part of mainstream western culture.  While this revival is arguably problematic because of cultural appropriation, increasing and advocating for women’s sexual health and pleasure is never the wrong choice. 

What does Yoni mean?

The concept of sensual and sexual massage is only one facet of Tantra. The word Tantra itself is a loose translation from Sanskrit, meaning ‘woven web’. This is an apt analogy in English because Tantra is all about the inter-connectedness of people to each other, to themselves, and to the universe.  The term Yoni refers to the female reproductive system, particularly the vulva and vagina,  but in some contexts the ovaries and uterus as well. 

Yoni massage is an ancient form of tantric practice that involves stimulating the vulva and vagina for a number of pleasurable and therapeutic purposes.

What is the purpose of a Yoni Massage?

Yoni massages serve several purposes and are used for a variety of reasons. These include, but are not limited to:

  • pain management – Both menstrual cramps and lower back pain can be alleviated through Yoni massage
  • orgasm discovery –  Yoni massage can help women learn how to orgasm and enrich the sexual pleasure that they experience
  • physical therapy for conditions like vaginismus, endometriosis, etc. –  Various conditions make penetration and pleasure challenging for women. Yoni massage can improve these conditions.
  • post-natal care –  Giving birth may be beautiful and natural, but it is also incredibly traumatic to the body. Yoni massage can help speed physical recovery, as well as re-establishing a sense of personal sexuality after childbirth.
  • healing sexual trauma –  Science has confirmed that trauma can be trapped in the body and manifests itself as a variety of chronic conditions.  Acknowledging and working through that trauma can be supported through Yoni massage. 

Tantric masturbation

Most masturbation is a hurried event, fuelled by shame or necessity. Tantric masturbation is about the journey, not just the destination. Masturbation is so personal it’s impossible to tell you how to do what works for you. Applying tantric principles like edging and breathing can improve your solo sex as well as your partnered sex because you will be:

  • More aware of your own needs
  • Increasingly comfortable with your desires
  • More articulate with your partner 
  • Able to enjoy their pleasure more without fixating on your own

Get to know yourself through Yoni Massage

Masturbation is an often overlooked part of tantric practice. Many people don’t think of self-love as part of the tantric way of life and lovemaking. It’s important that we take time to ourselves with our own bodies to discover what pleasure means for us alone. Only then can we truly articulate that to our partners. Much tantric instruction is about the interaction between two lovers, but don’t let that hold you back from taking a tantric approach to self gratification. 

What is a self-administered Yoni massage?

Essentially, a self-administered Yoni massage is just a form of tantric masturbation. The difference between rubbing one out because you’re horny, and engaging in self-administered Yoni massage is intentionality. Tantric practice is a focused discipline that helps you work toward increasing intimacy and communication. This intimacy and communication can be with other people, with your spiritual centre or God, but it can also be intimacy and communication with yourself. It is well documented that a major part of self-acceptance is the understanding and acknowledgement of ones sexuality and sexual self. Self-stimulation is a tried-and-true way to learn your body’s pleasure processes and  learn how to articulate your needs more clearly.

Does a Yoni massage require any special equipment or preparation?

There are many companies on the market today flogging traditional and rudimental sex toys as necessities for Yoni massage. We are all for empowering female masturbation, but let us be the first to tell you that you do not need any particular resources, materials, or fancy gadgets to enjoy and benefit from a Yoni massage.  All you need is a quality massage oil or lubricant of your choosing, and your own hand.  Using pleasure-oriented devices like vibrators takes away from the tantric Yoni massage experience. Stick to your own digits or completely analog implements such as dildos or Yoni eggs.

A quick note about sex toys and sexual health …

It is incredibly important to consider the materials that your sex toys are made from.  Under no circumstances should you use products that are not completely body safe. Stay away from “ jelly”  toys made from cheap and toxic rubber. Seek out toys and devices that boast being phthalate-free  and made from body neutral materials like silicone, stainless steel, borosilicate glass, or properly sealed natural stone. “Yoni eggs” serve the same purpose as  kegel balls, as small insertable’ s that can help condition and strengthen your pelvic floor. When purchasing these Specialty Products, take care to do your research and understand the impact of what you’re putting into your body.

How to give yourself a Yoni massage

The following information is just a guide, take what works for you and leave the rest. How are you self pleasure is incredibly personal and subjective and we are not here to tell you how to masturbate. We are here to give you a step-by-step guide to trying Yoni massage at home, alone. The same principles can be used for DIY Yoni massage with a partner, but if you have a Yoni, try these techniques on yourself first so you have a clear understanding of how they feel before you use them on anyone else.

It’s all about breathing

One thing that really sets tantric practice apart from the mainstream sexual practices is breathing. In fact, most people don’t breathe properly during their day-to-day life, let alone during masturbation or sex.  As a result of our high levels of stress and cultural lack of connection between our minds and bodies, people in Western culture tend to know less about proper breathing techniques than some other parts of the world. If you are familiar with yoga or meditation, you know a similar kind of breathing technique. The tantric massage, belly breasts are recommended. They are simple to do and they will help your mind and body relax almost instantly, preparing you for the pleasure of yourself administered Yoni massage.

The power of your own breath

You can apply a number of tantric techniques to your self-pleasure sessions. The simplest and easiest is to just slow down. By slowing down and touching yourself while you concentrate on your breathing you can achieve a very different masturbatory experience. Slowing down and applying tantric breathing techniques is also a way to almost guarantee that your orgasm, if that is your goal, is more long-lasting and more intense. This can lead to greater overall relaxation, a clearer head, better sleep, and many of the other benefits of orgasmic release.

Start slow 

Before you even begin to touch yourself, focus on your breathing and allow yourself to sink into a state of calm and relaxation.

  1. Lay in a star formation (on your bed): arms wide, feet just more than shoulder-width apart. 
  2. Breathe deeply in through your nose 
  3. Hold the breath for a count of eight
  4. Slowly release the air completely through your mouth. 
  5. Repeat this breathing cycle several times before you begin to touch yourself.

Savour yourself

Once you begin, make a point of touching parts of your body that you don’t necessarily consider sexual or even very sensual. Start with your arms or legs, and work your way over your whole body.

  • Take your time and let your hands move over your skin slowly
  • Focus on the sensation that your body feels, not what your hand feels
  • Spend time on sensitive and undervalued parts of your body: thighs, shoulders, neck, the insides of your wrists, etc.

Resist touching the parts of your body that are your known erogenous zones. If you begin by stimulating your body in a less sexual way you will lengthen the journey to satisfaction and release. The tension and build of desire is central to the tantric way. 

Access your unseen senses: Vulnerability and Intimacy

Tantric, and Yoni Massage, are all about the connection between the body, mind, and spirit.  This means having your spirit, your mind and your body working together, not working against one another. When we embark on the tantric path we can easily be drawn into focussing on the physical sensations. It’s important, even if you aren’t looking at tantra as a form of spirituality, to engage with the fact that tantric sex and learning about your sexuality through Tantra is inherently an act of vulnerability and intimacy. Tantra is not so simple as just an incredible massage. At its core, Tantra is about transcendence. Tantra doesn’t ask us to transcend our physical bodies In search of spirituality. Instead it gives us permission to use our bodies in order to tap into our own feminine divinity and elemental power. 

Have fun with it!

By accessing your innermost passion and strength through tantric practice you can take your sensual and sexual experiences to new levels. Part of elevating those experiences is tapping into your most basic human needs, urges, desires and understandings of the world. 

Tantra is a great philosophy to incorporate into your personal life, especially your sex life. But nothing beats spending time with the professionals! Are you interested in learning about Yoni Massage? Be sure to book a session with one of our masseuses soon. The London tantric scene is a wide and wonderful world but why not stick with the best? Secret Tantric has all the best girls and almost all of them provide absolutely world-class Yoni Massages. Call us now and book your session! 

What are you waiting for?

Whether you seek deep tissue relaxation or a happy ending massage, Secret Tantric has what you need. And we know how to give it to you!  Call us today to set up your appointment. You will not regret it!


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