Ladies, have you ever wondered what it is like to have a yoni massage? Ever wondered what it feels like, or whether or not it’s awkward? Maybe you’re unfamiliar with this ancient form of sensual self-care and want to learn more? Get ready for the answers to your most burning questions about yoni massage, why it’s worth trying and how good it can make you feel. 

Content Warning: this article makes brief reference to sexual trauma. If these topics are challenging for you, please proceed with caution.

Originally based in the teachings of Hinduism and Buddhism, Tantra focuses on intentionality, mindfulness, and authentic living. It began in India around 600 AD, making Tantra one of the oldest and most practiced health and wellness philosophies in the world. It includes massage, sensual and sexual body work and more general lifestyle methodologies.  Luckily, in order to enjoy some of its benefits, you do not have to adhere to any particular spiritual practice or partake in all its elements. You can pick and choose and do what’s best for you. Tantric massage and Yoni Massage, are intended to connect and strengthen the bonds between  the body, mind, and spirit. Because one cannot be ignored without creating an imbalance, tantra promotes your spirit, your mind and your body working together, not working against one another. 

What is a Yoni Massage?

Yoni massage is an ancient form of tantric practice that involves stimulating the vulva and vagina for pleasure and therapeutic purposes.

What do “Tantra” and “Yoni” mean?

The word Tantra itself is a loose translation from Sanskrit, meaning ‘woven web’, reminding us of the interconnectedness of to each other, to ourselves, and to the universe.  

The term Yoni, also Sanskrit, refers to the female reproductive system, particularly the vulva and vagina,  but in some contexts the ovaries and uterus as well. In Tantric terms, the Yoni is the seat and source of femininity and creativity. By ‘activating’ the yoni, it is awakened and the emotional connection to it can be celebrated, improved, or healed, as needed. 

What does Yoni Massage do for you?

Yoni massages have several purposes and are practiced for a variety of reasons:

  • postnatal care –  Birth may be beautiful and natural, but it is also incredibly traumatic to the body. Yoni massage can help speed physical recovery, as well as re-establishing a sense of personal sexuality after childbirth.
  • healing sexual trauma –  Science has confirmed that trauma can be trapped in the body and manifests itself as a variety of chronic conditions.  Acknowledging and working through that trauma can be supported through Yoni massage. 
  • pain management – Both menstrual cramps and lower back pain can be alleviated through Yoni massage
  • orgasm discovery –  Yoni massage can help women learn how to orgasm and enrich the sexual pleasure that they experience
  • physical therapy for conditions like vaginismus, endometriosis, etc. –  Various conditions make penetration and pleasure challenging for women. Yoni massage can improve these conditions.

Do you need to prepare for a yoni massage? 

Yoni massages are fairly low maintenance for the receiver, you really just need to lay back and enjoy yourself and they require very little preparation. Here are a few Do’s and Don’ts to make your Yoni Massage stress-free and enjoyable.

Before your yoni massage: 

  • Eat a light meal or snack an hour or two before your session
  • Try to time your session so that you can evacuate your bowels and bladder beforehand. This is for your own overall comfort and so that you don’t need to interrupt your massage with a bathroom break.
  • During the consultation at the beginning of your appointment, be as frank and honest with your masseuse about your boundaries as you can be so you feel confident and secure.

During your yoni massage

  • Relax and appreciate the gift you’ve given yourself with this experience
  • Communicate with your masseuse as needed, let her know how things feel and if anything is uncomfortable. Your boundaries and consent will always be honoured!
  • Follow her lead with breathing, tantric breath helps to open the body and mind, increasing the opportunity for pleasure
  • Don’t be afraid to get emotional. Yoni massage can unlock and dislodge all sorts of memories, emotions and thoughts and it can sometimes be overwhelming. 

Who performs a yoni massage?

Technically, anyone can perform a yoni massage, in the same way that anyone can give a back rub, but it won’t be the same as seeing a professional masseuse. Touching one’s own yoni, or someone else’s is not something we usually ‘learn’. We acquire knowledge through trial and error, doing more of what feels good and less of what doesn’t. A trained tantric therapist has greater insight into the traditions and tried and true methods of yoni massage and can use the skills and practices that are most appropriate for your needs. 

Who should get a yoni massage?

Yoni massage is (obviously) an adult-only activity but it is available to all adult people with yonis who wish to have one. Because yoni massage is low impact and can be as gentle or careful as need be, it is ideal for people with disability or trouble self stimulating. The benefits of yoni massage apply to everyone, making it a fun erotic option for any woman looking to try something new or addressing personal issues about sex, sexuality, her body, etc. 

Do I need to be gay or bisexual?

Definitely not! Some of our masseuses are bi or bi-curious, but just like your sexual orientation, it matters not! As intimate as tantric massage is, especially yoni massage, it’s still a professional environment and a transaction. Your masseuse will be completely professional and supportive. As a fellow woman, she will understand and empathize with any nervousness or trepidation that you express. Take it slow, enjoy the journey, and trust that she will guide you through the session safely and easily. 

What does it feel like?

At its simplest, a yoni could be described as slow, methodical fingering. But it’s much more than that. A yoni massage is an experience that is more valuable than the sum of its parts. Because Tantric practice is about the transferring and releasing of energy in the body, yoni massage can be used to access mental and emotional blockages around pleasure or self-perception. Since it touches on such heavy topics it’s important that the process be slow and gentle, not rushed and never rough or domineering. As cliche as it sounds, a good yoni massage makes you feel like your yoni is unfurling like a flower. The arousal is slow and sensual, your body responds to her touch and the slickness of the oils she uses in addition to your wetness. 

Massaging inside and out

As your yoni massage continues, she will massage your abdomen and thighs, and your vulva, taking time and giving plenty of attention with your labia and mons. Traditionally, yoni massages are penetrative, giving her access to the g-spot and the inside of the vagina. If you don’t wish to be penetrated that’s fine, your masseuse can focus on the outer parts instead. 

Do you orgasm?

The goal of yoni massage is the journey, not simply the destination. It is normal to orgasm during yoni massage, often more than once. If you’d rather not, that’s okay as well, but it’s worth mentioning that a tantric orgasm is profoundly different from a typical orgasm; longer, more intense and frequently multiple. 

Final Thoughts

When we embark on the tantric path we can easily be drawn into focusing on the physical sensations. It’s important, even if you aren’t looking at tantra as a form of spirituality, to engage with the fact that tantric sex and learning about your body and sexuality through Tantra is inherently brave. Tantra is not just an incredible massage. It is about transcendence. Tantra doesn’t ask us to transcend our physical bodies in search of spirituality. Instead it gives us permission to use our bodies in order to tap into our own feminine divinity and power. Because of this, Tantra is a great philosophy to incorporate into your personal life, especially your sex life.

What are you waiting for?

Whether you seek deep tissue relaxation or a happy ending massage, Secret Tantric has what you need. And we know how to give it to you!  If you are interested in learning about yourself through Yoni Massage and how it works for you, be sure to book a session with one of our masseuses soon. The London tantric scene is a wide and wonderful world but why not stick with the best? Secret Tantric has all the best girls, providing world-class Yoni Massages. Call us now and book your session! Call us today to set up your appointment. You will not regret it!

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