Have you ever wished that you could experience erotic massage at home? Better yet, do you wish that you could give your partner a sexy, erotic massage? Maybe you want to spoil your partner or add a little spice to your relationship. Whatever the reason, Secret Tantric has the answers for you. If you are looking for new ways to spice up your intimate connection, read on and learn all about tantric erotic massage made simple!

Tantric massage is a term that evokes romantic ideas of faraway places and exotic experiences. While the sensual nature of tantra is undeniable, this ancient practice can easily be adapted to suit your needs in the 21st century. Erotic massage is a simple concept. It is the act of gently manipulating the body in a way that benefits the mind, body and soul. Although erotic massage is not difficult, it’s can be best left to the professionals if you are seeking the highest quality of massage. If you want to try erotic massage at home, that can be a very attainable goal. It can be good fun to try tantric erotic massage in the comfort and privacy of your own home. You and your partner can take turns massaging one another, massage each other mutually at the same time, or just one of you can pamper the other. 

Can anyone do erotic massage?

Don’t get us wrong, we would never dissuade you from visiting one of our masseuses for a professional erotic massage. However, we do understand that privacy and the comfort of home can be a great way for you and your partner to ease your way into erotic massage. Tantric massage is especially erotic and sensual, focusing on breath-work and communication. Sex and intercourse are not necessarily parts of erotic or tantric massage, however, they are lovely bonuses when you are alone with a partner. Providing an erotic massage for a partner as a romantic gesture will likely not be too physically strenuous for you. Regardless of your or your partner’s level of fitness and mobility, erotic massage can be a wonderful way to connect and provide sexual healing for your bodies.

Keep it simple

So many erotic massage agencies like to use a lot of razzle-dazzle in their massages. At Secret Tantric we believe that erotic massage is a pure art, one that is best left unencumbered by too many props or materials. When you visit a masseuse at Secret Tantric, your massage will consist of little more than your two bodies and warm oils. There’s nothing wrong with making the erotic massage experience more elaborate  at home but we find that going back to basics gives our clients the best results. If you are performing on erotic massage at home with your partner do not feel pressured to imitate a professional setting. There are many small things you can do that will add up to an incredible erotic massage experience at home . Your partner will be delighted and excited by the thought and effort that you put into the session.

Consider the details of your erotic massage

Before you begin your erotic massage consider what your priorities are. 

  • Is your partner in need of actual muscular therapy or pain relief? 
  • Does your partner already see a physiotherapist or massage therapist for a prior injury? 
  • Is your partner ticklish? 
  • Are there any areas of your partner’s body that are off-limits? 
  • What are your partner’s expectations of this erotic experience?
  • Do you have the necessary materials on hand to perform an erotic massage?
  • What will you both need in order to consider this erotic massage experience a success?

Taking a bit of time to think through these details will ensure that your massage goes smoothly and that everyone’s expectations are met. It may seem like a more romantic gesture if you make the erotic massage a surprise but asking them about it beforehand can be the difference between a seamless erotic experience and a fight.

Use your five senses

Erotic massage is best enjoyed with some preparation of the mind and body. This may sound like overkill, but creating an appropriate atmosphere is a part of the mind/body connection that tantra helps you achieve. Taking a few minutes to soften the mood will help your mind and body become ready for pleasure. Consider it an investment in your pleasure. 

Sight – tidy up, even just a bit. A clutter-free space will help you focus and relax, two essential concepts for erotic pleasure

Touch – Encouraging your hands to linger on your partner’s skin tol heighten and extend the experience.

Smell – light a gently scented candle and eliminate distracting or unpleasant smells

Sound – choose music that is calm and rhythmic to promote relaxation

Taste – before you begin, prepare yourself some refreshment for after. A light snack of fruit and plenty of water is a nice way to treat yourselves afterwards.  

Choose the best oil for the job

Erotic massage just wouldn’t be the same without massage oil. You can use any vegetable based pure oil that you wish to, however we recommend grapeseed oil. Some people are loyal to olive oil, coconut oil, avocado oil, etc. but we find that grapeseed oil is the very best. If you can find cold-pressed organic grape seed oil for your at-home erotic massages, do pick some up. Grapeseed oil has many benefits: it is light yet rich and it is non-comedogenic. The last thing that you want after a wonderful sensual massage is for you or your partner to have a breakout. Getting spots should not be the cost of your massage! Another benefit of grapeseed oil is that it cleaned up easily. Giving an erotic massage at home can be messy, so be sure to lay down some towels to soak up any spills.

Getting started 

Once you have gathered all the materials you need, chosen your scented candle, and queued up the music, it’s time to begin. Remember: erotic massage has very few rules beyond what you and your partner agree to. It is important to take a little bit of time before you begin to discuss the massage and create some anticipation for the experience. Different couples may approach this different ways . If you’re shy or you don’t know each other very well,  take turns as you undress yourselves or each other, and make the touching mutual. Even if you don’t mean to, you can place an undue amount of pressure or stress on a partner by demanding that they be a willing recipient. In many cases it is easier for a couple to ease into an erotic massage together if they share in both the giving and the receiving. 

Consent is essential

At Secret Tantric we operate under the concept of enthusiastic informed consent. We all know that infringing on someone’s consent is uncomfortable and wrong, but it can be easy to overstep when you are with a partner. Before you begin your erotic massage ensure that you both understand what it is you’re consenting to. Just because the massage is erotic does not mean that it has to be a means to an end for sex. How, when and why you touch each other is just as important as the effort you’re making to experience the massage itself. Establishing clear boundaries on what both of you will and will not do during your at-home erotic massage is recommended. You don’t want to ruin the whole mood by making an error and upsetting your partner.

Be prepared for some emotions

Erotic massage can be an emotional experience. It’s easy to think that massage is all about the body, but erotic massage is just as much about stimulating the mind. A primary goal of tantric massage is reconnecting the mind and the body. Anxiety, stress, depression, all of these things add up to a mental landscape that  does not support wellness.  Health and wellness is based on a number of factors, and one of them is sexual health. Dealing with past emotional hurt or trauma can be a result of erotic massage. Sometimes the combination of touch and intention can be overwhelming and cause an emotional eruption.  We recommend that you discuss the potential for emotions to run high during your massage and be prepared to console each other in whatever way is best for the two of you.

How to give an excellent erotic massage to your partner

Once you and your partner have discussed all of the moving pieces, it’s time to get down to business. Tantra is all about intention and focus . Have your partner lay down on the bed with a drop sheet or towels underneath them. Any of the appropriate oils for erotic massage will stain your linens and clothes, so please take that into consideration. Begin at your partner’s feet and work your way up their legs. You don’t need to exert a ton of force on their muscles, especially not at first. Aim for deep sweeping motions. Put the majority of the pressure into the pads of your fingers or the heels of your hands. As you work up their body, be sure that you are giving equal attention to their left and right sides. 

When does it get SEXY? 

When you reach the tops of their thighs and buttocks, you have a choice to make. Depending on their response you could begin to tease and gently stroke or rub their bum or genitals. We recommend taking your time and avoiding direct contact with the genitals during the first pass over their body. Work your way up their back, over their shoulders extending the massage down each arm all the way to their fingertip. Move back up their arms to their shoulders and the base of their neck. Be sure to not miss the scalp and temples, two areas of erotic massage that can be surprisingly stimulating. When you have finished their backside, have them turn over and repeat the process from the top down on their front side. 

An erotic massage should be thorough

Rub their temples and jaw, gently stroke or rub the muscles of the throat and neck and move your hands down their chest and stomach. Take care not to tickle them and disrupt the massage. If your partner is ticklish, take your time and work at helping them stay focused on other sensations.  When you reach their breasts and genitals you may begin gently exploring. Your own excitement and arousal may cause you to move more quickly than you should. Becoming excited and eager to touch your partner is a wonderful thing. Keep things simple, keep things slow. You’re trying to slowly unravel their arousal and eroticism for them, not give them a quick slap and tickle. 

Intention matters

When you allow for their pleasure to be your pleasure and seek to fulfil them from a place of love and service, you can give the best erotic massages. If you are massaging your partner simply as a way to get something from them, or you feel like you’re just putting in your time, maybe erotic massage is not for you. Your intention, thoughts, and energy will be palpable to your partner through your hands. For these reasons it’s essential to conduct an erotic massage with patience, love and generosity.

The GRAND finale 

Stimulating your partner sexually is absolutely okay if that is what you both want. Erotic massage is not above intercourse or the primordial drive for sex. In fact, erotic massage prepares our bodies and minds for the purest levels of pleasure. This pure pleasure can only be achieved through patience and intention. If the two of you decide to finish your session by making love or masturbating together, do so. Remember: if your partner doesn’t wish to finish that’s okay. This is not necessarily indicative of a quality of your massage. Some people find erotic massage fulfilling on its own without orgasm. Other people enjoy it as an extended preamble to a spectacular orgasm. However you and your partner approach it, just make sure that you’re aligned and respectful of each other’s decisions.

In summary

When the massage is complete make time to debrief on the massage experience.  It may be counter-intuitive to talk about especially if you are not used to debriefing after sex. Making time to have a compassionate, open conversation with your partner will only make the next massage better. If you are interested in pursuing a professional couple’s massage with your partner this is also a good time to talk about that . It’s important for sexual relationships to be honest and forgiving, but it’s also important to respect each other’s limitations. We hope this guide will help you achieve new levels of intimacy and find more love in your relationship.

What are you waiting for?

There’s no reason to hesitate, simply pick up the phone and give us a ring and we will have you set up for the time of your life within minutes . Whether you seek deep tissue relaxation or a slippery sexy happy ending massage, Secret Tantric has what you need. And we know how to give it to you!  Call us today to set up your appointment. You will not regret it !


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