Are you thinking about an at-home tantric massage with your partner, but you don’t know where to begin? It may seem like there are a million details to consider, but as long as you have a willing partner and a quality massage oil, the rest will come naturally. As you prepare for a passionate tantric session with your love, choose the oil that will work best for what you have planned. Not all massage oils are created equal, and there are many types of massage oils for tantric massage. Let’s look at them one by one!

Don’t let the fact that you have many choices for massage oil overwhelm you. This article looks at the different kinds of oil and the optimum conditions for using them, but any of them will work just fine if it’s all you have. That said, to make your tantric session with a partner more special and more intentional, seek out the best oil you can afford that matches your needs. It’s time to abandon the partially used, sticky bottle of strongly perfumed, additive filled, massage oil from the local druggist. It’s time to upgrade! 

Safety First

Any vegetable based oil will work for a body to body massage, but some do a better job than others. We use only 100% pure, organic, cold-pressed virgin grapeseed oil. It is the best oil for our purposes because it is good for a variety of types of massage. Grapeseed oil is non-irritating and non-comedogenic which means it won’t make your skin break out. Avoid oils with additives, synthetic perfumes, glycerin or parabens. Using a quality massage oil will not cause you to break out nor will it ruin your complexion. Skip ingredients and materials which are irritating to the skin – they can actively detract from the sensuality of your tantric experience

What are massage oils?

The term ‘massage oil’ refers to any oil that is safe for massage. Commercially available oil blends are usually heavily scented and impure so find yourself a quality natural vegetable based oil and toss that ancient bottle you bought in university. Even though the word “oil” sounds messy and scary and like it’s bad for you, oil can be very good for the skin. Oil is a very effective lubricant for all kinds of massage so forget what the skincare industry has told you! 

Good massage oil will be made up from one or more common vegetable ‘carrier oils’. Called carrier oils, they carry smaller portions of more potent ingredients in them as a way to disperse such ingredients into the skin without causing irritation. You do not need to scent your carrier oil, it will work perfectly without adding anything. 

Massage oils and aromatherapy

As you can imagine, aromatherapy and essential oils have made their way into the massage oil space. While essential oils can make your massage oils smell lovely, they can also cause undo irritation to both the skin as well as the delicate tissues of the nose and sinuses.  If you are experimenting with essential oils we recommend that you use them sparingly. Always follow the recommended ratios from the manufacturer. Adding only a few drops of an essential oil may not seem like enough. Trust us, it is! Not only are these oils potent smelling, their aroma therapeutic effect can be intense or overwhelming.

Likewise, essential oils are not a necessary part of massage. If you find their smells to be too cloying or distracting, it’s fine to skip them all together. We prefer to keep our oils plain and use scented candles to create ambiance to stimulate the emotional and sensual imagination.

Massage Oil and Temperature

Depending on the kind of oil you are using,  temperature can affect its viscosity. (Coconut oil is a perfect example:  it melts easily with body heat but it is solid at room temperature or cooler.) If you or your partner are into temperature sensation play, put your massage oil in the freezer for a short period of time to cool it down before you begin. Alternatively, you can set your bottle of massage oil in a sink of warm water to add some soothing warmth to your massage. This is especially good if either of you has aching muscles that need tending. 

Choosing a massage oil by purpose

Choose your oil based on 

  • Your/your partner’s skin condition (some are extra beneficial!)
  • The intensity of the massage (friction and absorption are factors)
  • The length of time you’ll be massaging (some have more lasting power)
  • What is available and affordable

An at-home body-on-body massage that requires a lot of movement and friction will benefit from a slow absorption, heavy oil will stand up to the friction you create better than a light textured, quickly absorbed oil. 

If you are giving yourself or someone else a lingam massage or a yoni massage, steer away from oils that have essential oils in them.  If you are going to be touching their most sensitive skin or penetrating any orifice, use the purest, lightest, most natural oil you can get your hands on.

Types of oils for tantric massage

Jojoba oil

Richness: very rich, heavy and luxurious
Absorption: slow to absorb

  • This luxurious oil is the heaviest of the vegetable based massage oils. 
  • It is soft, and super-moisturizing, and the slowest oil to penetrate the skin.  
  • Because jojoba oil is so slowly absorbed, much of it stays on the surface of the skin, making it ideal for more intense or long-lasting massages.
  • Be mindful that heavier oils are harder to clean up and will stain fabrics and surfaces more stubbornly than others.

Pro tip:  If you are into high friction body to body massage,  a mix of grapeseed and jojoba can give you the enduring slickness you’re looking for.  

Avocado oil 

Richness: heavy
Absorption: quick, despite its richness

  • One of the heavier vegetable based massage oils. 
  • Excellent on very dry skin, psoriasis or eczema. 
  • Avocado oil is fast absorbing

When buying avocado oil: When used in massage oil blends, avocado oil is often cut with another lighter more neutral oil because it is quite heavy and expensive. If you want pure avocado oil, look for it in the supermarket in the cooking oil aisle. 

Sweet almond oil

Richness: light and slick
Absorption: slow 

  • Has a naturally sweet aroma
  • Light with a buttery richness to it
  • It absorbs less quickly than avocado oil, but feels lighter and smoother on the skin.
  • Sweet almond oil is a very popular ingredient in moisturizing skin care products. 

Look online:  Sweet almond oil is easily purchased online or in your local health food store but you may not find it in a regular supermarket. 

Coconut oil 

Richness: medium
Absorption: medium-slow

  • Sweet tropical aroma
  • Solid at room temperature and easily melted by body temperature.  
  • tastes good so kissing or oral is comfortable and good for you.

Keep your cool with coconut: Freeze soap-sized bars of coconut oil for relief in hot weather, and erotic sensory play. The oil will slowly melt as it warms in your hand and on their body. 

Grapeseed oil

Richness: light
Absorption: medium-quick

  • Non-comedogenic
  • Light to the touch
  • Contains skin-healthy linoleic acid (a powerful antioxidant)
  • Easy to find in-store and online

Pro Tip: Grapeseed oil also makes a great sexual lubricant!

CBD oils

Richness: depends on the carrier oil
Absorption: depends on the carrier oil, CBD effects are usually felt within 30 mins of application

  • Cannabidiol (CBD) is a natural compound found in and derived from the cannabis plant.
  • Anxiety and pain-relieving
  • Anti-inflammatory 
  • Mood boosting properties
  • Do your own research to see if a CBD product is right for your DIY tantric massages

Good to know:
Unlike tetrahydrocannabinol (THC), the most famous cannabis compound, CBD won’t get you “high” and is non-intoxicating. In recent years the clinical uses for cannabis have increased and they are now available online almost everywhere, with many countries allowing the limited use of this helpful product. Research continues on the topical use of CBD and its efficacy. 

Self-service with massage oils

Toss the box of tissues and the pump bottle of lotion! Upgrade your next wank with drizzle of oil followed by a warm damp washcloth to clean up. 

  • A good massage oil will up your masturbation game considerably. 
  • It will make it more comfortable, more efficient, and more satisfying. 
  • Add massage oil to masturbation if you are into edging  or tease and denial.  
  • Lubing up with a good quality massage oil will allow you to play for longer

Cleaning up after using massage oils

As fun and sexy as massage oils are, it’s not a very forgiving substance when it comes to staining surfaces and textiles. We do not recommend giving an oily massage on your new mattress or your best set of sheets!


  • Inevitably, an ignored spill will stain
  • Untreated oil stains get worse over time as the oil attracts dirt and holds it within fabric and other porous surfaces.  
  • Put down dark coloured towels or a painter’s drop cloth to absorb any spills or rub-off from your  massage. 
  • If you do get massage oil on a textile: Dab it up with a lint-free cloth. Do not scrub! Apply a stain remover for oil/grease and wash as directed. If it’s a rub or furniture upholstery, use a spot treatment stain remover that degreases. Follow directions carefully. 
  • If you spill massage oil on hardwood floors, wipe it up as soon as possible. Sprinkle with bicarb/baking soda to absorb excess in the wood grain. 

Final thoughts on massage oil for tantric massage

Choosing the right massage oil can help you maximize your massage efforts, and treat you or your partner to a new, more comfortable and rejuvenating massage. No matter which oil you choose for the purpose of your next massage, you’ll be glad that you included it! Adding massage oils to solo or partnered intimacy can be an exciting step towards increasing pleasure.  Not only are they safe and easy to use, they are economical and basically fool proof. It doesn’t take much, just a few squirts of your favourite oil and you will be on your way to sensual bliss!  

How do I book myself a tantric massage?

Whether you are looking for an exotic massage for you and a partner for yourself, we have what you want. Our girls are the most beautiful in London, if not the world! We are confident that every session you book with us will be better than the last. No matter your reasons for booking with us, we will always leave you satisfied, to whatever degree you desire.

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