Welcome to The Shy Guy’s Guide to Erotic Massage, where you will get all the answers to your questions about navigating your first erotic massage. Making the leap to visit an erotic masseuse for the first time can be nerve-wracking. But it doesn’t have to be! Once you know what to expect and how to navigate as a shy guy in this world, it’s easy. 

Like so many things for shy people, thinking about doing something is often worse than actually doing it. An experience like erotic massage has benefits, many of which relate to anxiety and confidence, so pushing yourself to try it may be really advantageous. Here at Secret Tantric, our masseuses have truly seen it all. From challenging stammers to social awkwardness, disability to embarrassing dysfunction, nothing is new or surprising. You will find that they are able to meet you where you are in terms of your shyness, whatever the reason, and lead you through a sensual, positive massage experience. 

It’s okay to be shy 

Shyness is a challenging personality trait to possess. It can be a natural part of who you are or a result of trauma or negative feedback. Wherever your shyness comes from, it’s something you must learn to live with and navigate through. Ultimately, it’s totally okay to be shy, provided it isn’t limiting your life experience. Making specific efforts to overcome it can improve your sense of confidence and ability, which becomes a positive self-fulfilling prophecy. There’s nothing wrong with shyness but don’t let it stop you from really  fun and exciting things like getting an erotic massage in London! It’s 100% okay to simply tell your masseuse that you’re somewhat shy. She can totally work with that! 

Don’t label yourself – we won’t!

It’s tempting to be hard on yourself for being shy. Although it’s easy to think poorly of yourself or regret the opportunities you may have missed because of it, labelling yourself  won’t help you improve. According to leading psychologists, the best way to work on shyness is to face it head on and push yourself to try new experiences and ways to express yourself. If you think that an erotic massage sounds good but aren’t sure if you can do it, let us assure you: you can. 

Let go of the self-stigma

A common issue for first-timers is getting over the idea of paying for an erotic experience. Some forms of adult entertainment are more acceptable than others: visiting a strip club is seen as less contentious than hiring an escort as a date. Hiring an escort for a date is less contentious than hiring an escort for the weekend. Where does erotic massage land in all of this? Arriving at your appointment  full of trepidation and moral quandaries will impede your ability to enjoy your massage. Don’t set yourself up for disappointment. Come to your massage with a clear head and an open heart and let us do the rest.

You deserve to feel good

Being shy is not a life sentence to dullness and missed opportunity. Taking life bite by small bite can be the answer to balancing shyness and social anxieties. 

In fact, there are lots of great reasons to try an erotic massage because you’re a shy guy:

  • It’s transactional. There are no strings, it’s not emotionally messy.
  • A finite timeline. Tackling shyness is easiest in small bursts. An hour or two with a masseuse is a great way to push yourself, without breaking.
  • The power of a sympathetic stranger. Your masseuse has no need or desire to judge you, nor will she. Clients have all sorts of issues and needs, and part of the success of our masseuses is their empathy and compassion. 

Having a shy personality shouldn’t preclude you from the things you want to do and the life you want to have. We will remind you of just that! 

What to expect

When you call in to book your session you will get lots of the specific details like address, confirmation about your masseuse, etc. All sessions play out more or less the same way: when you arrive, you and your masseuse will have a brief consultation about limits and boundaries and what you are looking to experience. This is an important place in the appointment because you will need to express yourself and your desires. You may wish to practice this in advance if you’re nervous. Then you’ll pay up front and be asked to have a quick shower before the massage begins. When it’s over, you can have another shower if you wish, thank your masseuse and be on your merry way! Easy! 

Do your research

As a Shy Guy, finding a reliable and authentic massage agency ( like us!) is essential. Knowing you are with a highly trusted and professional masseuse will make it easier if you are feeling skittish. Knowing that you can rely on the reputation of Secret Tantric means that you can relax and truly enjoy your massage. No matter what kind of massage you have, you will be treated like a king, handled proficiently by your masseuse and left feeling reborn when it’s over. Beware the impostors who offer more than a hasty rub’n’tug in a crummy back-alley shop. With us, you get the most beautiful girls in luxurious private apartments, giving the massage of your dreams. 

Choosing the treatment for you

Selecting a massage treatment should be fun, not agonising, but it can be that way for the Shy Guys. Overthinking often goes hand in hand with shyness, so let us help with one detail: there’s no bad choices here. All forms of massage are awesome and feel great, all of our masseuses are stunning and sexy, and all our massages are at least 60 mins in duration. You literally can’t go wrong. Scroll through our massage menu and read some profiles for individual masseuses. We have lots of options and opportunities for your pleasure, so jump right in and book with us today!

Keep an open mind

Shyness can easily trigger fear and anxiety, especially when you’re entering a new situation or meeting new people. It’s easy to worry yourself into a corner and shut down, even start to believe you can’t do it. But try your best to keep an open mind. It may seem stressful to make an appointment, prepare, and arrive and meet a masseuse. Then you’ll talk about why you’re there and then undress. Then you’ll be with a naked woman, experiencing the pleasure of your massage. Don’t ruin that beautiful experience by overthinking! Keep your mind open to the benefits and pleasure of the session and try your best not to get hung up on the details and little worries. 

Minor preparations have major payoffs

Once you’ve had your first tantric massage, you will see how easy and straightforward the process is. There’s really nothing to be nervous about and no reason to be shy because if you’ve gone once, you can go a million times! We promise that your masseuse will be warm and open and inviting. At Secret Tantric we primarily do in-call massage, meaning that you travel to your masseuse, not the other way around. Our masseuses host their sessions from their luxury apartments throughout London and they are the sweetest and sexiest hostesses you can imagine. Each one has a dedicated massage space within her flat that is fully stocked with all the supplies necessary for an incredible tantric massage experience. 

Don’t go on an empty stomach

For physical comfort, we recommend that you do not go to a massage session on an empty stomach. Eat something light and sensible an hour or so before your massage session. Likewise, it is ideal that you have used the facilities before your session begins so that you don’t have to interrupt the proceedings. If prostate massage is part of the session, you will want to fully evacuate your bowels 2 to 3 hours before your session begins. This will ensure that you have no unsightly surprises, and that you have maximum comfort during your massage. 

Drink up!

Just as it’s not ideal to go into a session too full or too hungry, you will get more out of your massage if you are well hydrated. Be sure that you have visited the loo before your session begins so that you can go forward uninterrupted without your bladder annoying you. We recommend that you drink several litres of water in the 24 hours leading up to your session. Being well hydrated will make you feel better overall, it will make you more flexible, and your muscles more amenable to massage. Avoid drinking heavily caffeinated, alcoholic, or high sugar drinks leading up to your session as these will act as diuretics and potentially dehydrate you.

Don’t worry about your body

Your masseuse will have no expectations of your hygiene and grooming beyond the fact that your body should be clean. At Secret Tantric all of our clients have a requisite shower at the beginning of their session and an optional shower at the end if they wish to clean up before they leave. Even if a client shows up and is fresh from the shower, they will still be expected to have a shower on-site before their session begins. This gives their masseuse some time to set up as well as ensuring that they are fresh as a daisy. Your masseuse will not expect you to be manscaped, nor will she expect a certain level of fitness or flexibility. A good tantric masseuse will meet you where you’re at and accommodate your body as it is. 

Shy is not the worst thing to be 

Lots of our clients are shy. In fact, Shy Guys make up a large portion of the men that we work with. It might seem like an erotic massage is the worst place for a Shy Guy but our masseuses are so much more than pretty faces. They will know exactly how to help draw you out of your shell and get the most out of your session. They are there to ensure you have a great time and leave feeling so much better than when you arrived. Massage should be fun and sexy and positive. Don’t let your shyness hold you back or force you to miss out on awesome experiences. We have you covered and we can absolutely accommodate you if you are shy or introverted or nervous. 

We will take great care of you

Shy and introverted clients are very common and we know just how to help you through your nerves. Erotic massage is a wonderful tool for breaking down walls and building confidence. It is intimate and revealing, vulnerable and intense, but it’s also safe and relaxed. Instead of just thinking about it, give us a call. We will answer all your burning questions and ensure that you are fully ready for your session. We are fully confident that your first erotic massage with Secret Tantric will not be your only massage in London. Your pleasure is our priority and we are absolutely sure you will be back for more. Start the journey today! 

You’ve got nothing to lose

An erotic massage is a truly unique and uplifting massage experience. Your masseuse is ready to take your feelings from drab to fab. Put the spring back in your step that you so desperately need. See us for general aches and pains, a bit of companionship, or for the titillating erotic experience of a lifetime. Don’t delay if you are considering giving us a call, all of our masseuses are popular and in high demand. Book yourself a session today to avoid disappointment as their calendars are chock-a-block every single week!

What are you waiting for?

Erotic massage is a luxury, but also an important part of your sexual health maintenance. Looking to relax? We can meet your every need.

Whether you are looking for a lingam massage or sensual full body tantric massage, we have what you want. Our girls are the most beautiful in London, if not the world! We are absolutely confident that every session you booked with us will be better than the last. No matter your reasons for booking with us, we will always leave you satisfied, to whatever degree you desire.

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