The world of erotic massage can be intimidating if you are unfamiliar with it. Gorgeous women, new and unfamiliar terminology, navigating the social dynamics of such an intimate session with a stranger … It can be a lot! You may be interested in erotic massage but unsure of how it works, what to expect, and what rules you should follow. You’re not alone! You’ll be glad to know that most of what you need to be aware of is good manners and common sense. But even still, we understand the anxiety about your first session. Allow us to assuage those fears and set your mind at ease. Read on to learn about the erotic massage etiquette mistakes you should avoid.

Every industry has its own rules and quirks, unwritten guidelines that we often feel we should ‘just know’ without ever learning. For instance, we understand leaving gratuities at restaurants, we abide by particular social rules when we are in locker rooms and other semi-private public spaces,  and we understand that we shouldn’t speak loudly at the cinema.  All of these how-to’s are things we have picked up along the way throughout our lives, or we have been explicitly taught how to behave.  The adult entertainment industry has its own set of rules and behaviours. But, if you are unfamiliar, you may feel out of the loop. No one wants to make a social gaffe, least of all with your pants down. So how does one acquire these unwritten rules to avoid erotic massage etiquette mistakes?

Our standards are high at Secret Tantric 

No two erotic massage agencies operate the same way. At Secret Tantric we aim for the perfect balance between client satisfaction and masseuse engagement. We know that a happy masseuse means a happy client. At Secret Tantric HQ, we are committed to doing what we can on our end to ensure that our masseuses are treated well and going into every massage with confidence and a sense of security. Yes, we have incredibly high standards here at Secret Tantric, making us the best in the business. We cater to a particular crowd,  mostly well-to-do, successful professionals. Our clients are well-educated, erudite, and worldly. Although we cater to both men and women, we are a gentleman’s agency, meaning that we expect our clients to act appropriately at all times. 

Safety, always

We need to be somewhat stringent with our guidelines to ensure the safety and security of our masseuses. These expectations are not meant to unnecessarily limit the connection or interaction between client and masseuse.  We want you to have a great time, and we want you to engage with our masseuses with all of the confidence you can muster.  Being a little bit nervous is natural, and we understand that. Remember, we are here to see you through this experience and make it one that you won’t soon forget. 

Know before you go

When you call in to set up an appointment, one of the first things you will be asked is if you have visited the website. Our website has been designed to give you all the information that you need before your appointment. We also have an extensive menu of massage styles, detailed portfolios on each of our girls, and a lengthy FAQ section for more general questions. The process is simple: find the massage style and masseuse you are interested in, call us directly to get the next available time slot with her, show up on time and she will guide you through the rest.

Consultations are key

Most of our appointments are in-call, meaning that you travel to your masseuse. Our erotic massage specialists primarily work out of their homes. Each flat is situated in a convenient part of London, is well-appointed and could only be described as 5-star. Upon arrival at their luxurious flat, your masseuse will greet you and invite you in for a brief consultation. During this conversation the two of you will discuss what you have in mind, and clarify the details that were taken when you first called in.

Be prepared to pay at the beginning

Once you have agreed on the course of events for the session, you will pay your masseuse directly.  Payment is always taken before the session begins, after the consultation is complete. When your cash payment is complete, you will be asked to take a brief and thorough shower. We now require all clients to shower before their session begins, regardless of the state you arrived in. You won’t be expected to shower after your session is complete, although many of our clients do prefer a full shower in addition to the warm towel wipe-down at the end of your massage. 

The Three C’s 

There are three things that are must-haves for a successful session with an erotic masseuse: clarity, consent, and common sense. So long as these three factors have been acknowledged, you will do brilliantly. It’s absolutely normal to be nervous or anxious before your first erotic massage. It’s also perfectly normal to be nervous and excited every time you go. What’s important is that you manage your excitement in such a way that you can communicate clearly and uphold basic social decencies. It shouldn’t need saying, but for some it does, your masseuse is a fully autonomous person. She may be providing an intimate service, but that by no means gives her clients carte blanche to mistreat her. The safety and comfort of our masseuses is non-negotiable. We have a zero-tolerance policy for poor behaviour from our clients.

Clarity is a two-way street

The consultation at the beginning of your session is a very important part of the experience. This is time set aside for you and your masseuse to have a clear and honest conversation about what you expect and what she can deliver.  We require these consultations at the beginning of every appointment because we know that without them details and clarification can become muddied. The best erotic massage is one without interruptions or awkward moments. Our masseuses absolutely know how to guide their clients through the experience seamlessly.

Don’t be ‘that guy’

Do not be that guy who argues, coerces, or pressures their masseuse.  We are the farthest thing from a bait and switch agency. What you see on our website is what you will get, and we expect that our clients will be just as forthright and sincere in the initial phone call, as well as the in-person consultation. Likewise, the length of time you spend with your masseuse is flexible, but should be established at the beginning of the appointment, not mid way through and not at the end. Your masseuse will be absolutely clear with you on what her limits are in terms of consent, autonomy, and her available time.

Consent is non-negotiable

It should go without saying that even in a transaction like erotic massage, the rules of consent are always at play, and are forever non-negotiable. A common etiquette mistake in the world of erotic massage is overlooking consent. There is a particularly strong cultural bias towards  transactional sexual encounters.  Unfortunately some clients make the mistake of disrespecting boundaries with their masseuses. It is essential to remember that your masseuse in no way waives her human rights or rights to bodily autonomy simply because of the kind of work that she does. Your masseuse will communicate with you clearly what is permissible and what is going too far. You will be informed of these boundaries before your session begins so that the session itself can be seamless and enjoyable for both of you. Likewise, your boundaries and consent will always be honoured by our erotic massage experts. When in doubt, pause the activity and ask for clarification.

Common sense is King

As you can see, a lot of these unwritten social rules that apply to erotic massage are simply common sense.  How you behave and interact with our masseuses can be the deciding factor on whether or not you get to book again in the future. By and large, our clients are lovely, respectful, and our masseuses enjoy the time they spend together. Sometimes it happens that our clients are a bit stymied by the sheer beauty and elegance of our masseuses. Luckily, these women are used to stopping traffic and as long as your slack-jawed appreciation of them is sincere and respectful there’s no reason to hide your adoration.

Don’t be a clock watcher

As the old saying goes, time is money. This is just as true with an erotic massage as it is with anything else. We know that your time and your money are valuable to you, and the same applies to your masseuse. All of our massages are a minimum of 60 minutes in length. Not surprisingly, most of our clients opt to spend more time. The time that you spend with your masseuse should be established up front to ensure that you weren’t disappointed by how busy her schedule may be. One thing that will not ingratiate you to your masseuse is being a clock watcher. Erotic massage is intimate and requires a certain amount of presence and focus from both people. If you are distracted by the clock, counting down the minutes, or worried about getting the most out of your time, you will only be making your masseuse’s job harder. Instead, relax, listen to her instructions, and enjoy her ministrations. You are the client, you don’t need to think about the nuts-and-bolts of the appointment. You just need to relax and enjoy yourself.  Remember, Secret Tantric masseuses are consummate professionals. In short, you are in great hands.

Don’t haggle 

An unfortunately common erotic massage etiquette mistake is attempting to haggle over price. This is not an auction house, you are not bidding for your appointment. Erotic massage costs what it costs. Our masseuses have their own hours of availability and they set their own rates. Rest assured that all the rates provided by our erotic masseuses are competitive and in line with industry standards. That said, we are not a budget service. If the cost of our massages is too dear, perhaps we are not the agency for you. We provide a luxury, VIP service, and that level of excellence does not come cheap. Not only that, we work with the most beautiful and talented erotic massage specialists in London, and much like many things in life, you absolutely get what you pay for. We stand by our masseuses, their skills, and their rates. Don’t be that guy that haggles or grumbles about price! We are completely confident that you will always get your money’s worth, and that you will return again and again.

Don’t be a flake

As mentioned above, time is money. When you book an erotic massage with Secret Tantric, we expect that you will follow through and show up for your appointment. Our masseuses are incredibly busy. That may sound like a cheap line, but the truth is that their schedules are more often than not, absolutely chock-a-block. Genuine cancellations and re-bookings are of course permitted, but please keep your appointments when at all possible. Coordinating the timing and availability of our masseuses is an ever-changing puzzle and your cancellation, especially without notice, can really throw a spanner in the works. Just as our masseuses are ready for you on time, every time, we expect that you will arrive on time and leave when your session is finished, without issue.

Mistakes are easily avoided

Hopefully this article has painted a clear picture for you. Avoiding etiquette mistakes as an erotic massage client isn’t hard. The process of a Secret Tantric erotic massage is a simple one. Don’t be too worried or get too far into your own head about it. Remember, your masseuse is a professional and she knows exactly what to ask of you and when, to guide you through your session. There’s really no need to be nervous and no need to worry about making mistakes. As long as you show up with an open mind and you are respectful in your communication you shouldn’t experience any particular issues.

What are you waiting for?

It’s one thing to read about the sensual massage experience, but it is something else entirely to have your own. There’s no reason to hesitate, simply pick up the phone and give us a ring and we will have you set up for the time of your life within minutes . Whether you seek deep tissue relaxation or a slippery sexy happy ending massage, Secret Tantric has what you need. And we know how to give it to you!  Call us today to set up your appointment. You will not regret it!

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