Every industry has its tips and tricks, the inside info, things only the pros know. In the spirit of ‘sharing is caring’, this is the perspective of your erotic masseuse. It’s easy for clients to make harmless assumptions about their massage sessions, but you may be surprised when you look at things from our point of view. So without further ado, here are 5 secrets about erotic massage, from the professionals. 

Erotic massage should be fun and sexy and relaxing. But if you are new to it or you are unsure about what to expect, it can be a nerve-wracking proposition. Many people put off getting the erotic massage they want because they feel so ill-quipped and uninformed about what it’s like. That’s where we come in. Not only do we do the best erotic massage in London, we want to help you feel comfortable and excited about your massage. “Know before you go” is a good policy for lots of activities but it can be especially helpful when it comes to massage. We know you don’t want to seem uninformed or like a “newbie” so articles like this unpack all the things you need to know but don’t know how to ask. 

What is erotic massage, exactly?

Erotic massage is fairly straightforward. It is exactly what it sounds like:  a massage that is erotic. The difference between a regular massage and an erotic massage is that a regular massage is done with the hands only. An erotic massage is often a full body to body experience. Erotic massage is not legal everywhere, but it is in the United Kingdom. We are completely legitimate, above board, legal, and the furthest thing from a bait and switch.  The services that we provide are all legal, and there is no risk to our clients whatsoever. Beyond that we strive for excellence in terms of discretion and privacy. No one ever needs to know that you had an erotic massage. Your secret is always safe with us.

1. Do yourself a favour: stretch first

We aren’t suggesting you need to hit the yoga studio before your erotic massage, but if you take a few minutes to stretch and limber up, not only will your muscles be more comfortable during the massage, you’ll go into the experience more confidently. A few minutes of gentle stretching and deep breathing will set your body up to receive the healing energy of erotic massage, as well as the physical benefits to your skin and muscles. Sometimes clients are a bit nervous/excited and jittery before a session. This is perfectly normal and happens to almost everyone. Luckily, stretching and taking a few deep ‘belly breaths’ will calm combat the butterflies you may be feeling. 

2. Manners matter!

It should go without saying that how you speak to and treat your masseuse matters. It also influences whether or not you will be permitted to book again in the future. There’s no need for a sexy, sensual and relaxing massage session to be ruined with coarse language or behaviour. We expect that you will be gentlemanly and respectful at all times. We have zero tolerance for improprieties or abusive language or actions. Erotic massage is an activity between consenting adults and no one consents to being assaulted, harassed or bullied. Your masseuse will be respectful of your boundaries as well and the session will begin with a quick consultation. This is the right time to discuss what you would and would not like to experience in your massage session. Likewise, your masseuse will clarify her limits as well. Once everyone is clear, your session can begin. 

3. Your body is fine how it is

The most common questions and hesitations we encounter from clients are about their bodies. For many guys, the idea of being nude or nearly nude with a gorgeous woman is nerve wracking and sends them into an insecurity spiral. We don’t judge your bodies or compare you. As women, we know how harsh body criticism can be, and as massage experts we are aware that men face it too. Beyond beauty standards, we are also sensitive to disabilities and we know that flexibility and mobility are not universal. Every client is different. 

  • You are not too old.
  • So you have a belly? Big deal. 
  • You don’t weigh too much for the massage table.
  • No one is looking at your back hair.
  • We don’t expect you to ‘manscape’.
  • Feeling ‘sub-average’? We have seen it all. 

4. You don’t have to have a ‘happy ending’

For many clients, the whole session boils down to a few pertinent and pleasurable seconds. Without the ‘happy ending’ they’d feel incomplete, disappointed, or lacking. For others, ending the session in climax isn’t possible. This can be for a number of reasons, some of which can be helped through erotic massage, over time. Medications, physical and mental health, performance anxiety, these can all lead to a lacklustre or non existent finish. Some guys finish too quickly and don’t get the benefit of extended edging and tease and denial. The ‘happy ending’ is not assumed and you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to. There will be no pressure or judgement, no snickering or eye rolling. When we say we have ‘seen it all’ we really have. There are as many reasons for getting an erotic massage as there are people getting them. Each one is unique. 

5. You will get out of it what you put into it

Our expectations of erotic massage clients are not high, we expect that you will be pleasant and participatory, but your role is to be pampered and treated like the king you are. That said, if you go into your massage session feeling defensive or anxious, you will inevitably spend time and energy on that feeling instead of being present in the moment with your masseuse and her healing touch. If you go into your session open-minded and receptive to the calm and relaxation you can gain, you will have a much better time. You don’t need to keep the conversation flowing or crack jokes, or flirt, you just need to be present and sopping up all the sensations. Your masseuse is a professional and she will guide you through the session, but what you take away from it is ultimately up to you. 

Other Erotic Massage FAQs

Am I expected to tip my masseuse?

Gratuities are appreciated but not required. 

Do I pay before or after? 

Each agency is different, but at Secret Tantric you will pay your masseuse directly, before your massage begins.

I just showered this morning, that’s good enough right? 

That’s great but you will still be required to shower upon arrival before your massage begins.

When my massage is over do I have to be done or can I stay for longer? 

Our masseuse’s schedules are very tightly managed so if, and only if, she has additional time available, can you add on. Ideally, you would decide on the time frame before the massage begins so that there is no rush.

Can I bring a gift for my masseuse? 

Gifts are lovely and generous but not required or expected. You probably wouldn’t bring a gift to a chef in a restaurant you were eating in, nor would you take a gift when you visited a personal trainer or a chiropractor, etc. so bringing a gift to a stranger just for doing her job likely won’t ingratiate you on the first visit. 

Come see us!

Secret Tantric is a truly VIP Massage agency: our masseuses are absolutely gorgeous, the massages themselves are top-notch, and our clients’ feedback is fabulous. Most of our clients are repeat clients, some of whom have built tremendous friendships and ongoing professional relationships with masseuses that they see regularly. Whether it’s your first time or your 50th, we do everything within our power to ensure that you are comfortable and confident about privacy and discretion, so that you can relax and enjoy yourself. You deserve it!

Easy and stress free

As you can see, preparing for an erotic massage, both physically and emotionally, is simple. When you get an erotic massage you are investing in yourself and your own well being. Therefore, it makes sense to get all you can from the experience. We do everything we can to ensure that your experience is as luxurious and soul-satisfying as it can be. When you embrace the process and let go of any guilt or discomfort, the real happiness and healing seeps in. We want you to leave your sessions feeling more human and more whole. You should feel so pampered that you can’t wait to come back again. 

What are you waiting for?

Erotic massage is a luxury, but also an important part of your sexual health maintenance. Looking to relax? Are you touch-starved from being single? We can meet your every need.

Whether you are looking for a lingam massage or sensual full body tantric massage, we have what you want. Our girls are the most beautiful in London, if not the world! We are absolutely confident that every session you booked with us will be better than the last. No matter your reasons for booking with us, we will always leave you satisfied, to whatever degree you desire.

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