Gentlemen, this one is for you! Learn how to master the multiple tantric orgasm. (Spoiler alert: it’s easier than you think!) A few simple steps and a bit of practice (that’s the fun part!) and you’ll be on your way to full body bliss.
How to Master the Multiple Tantric Orgasm
Men love orgasms. Who doesn’t? But many men, most men, have only ever experienced a very narrow slice of what their body can offer them, sexually. Why is that? The overall cultural support for men exploring sex and sexuality is, sadly, still quite limited. The cultural assumption seems to be that men have it all figured out. Not only that, to be curious about such things is often looked down upon in mainstream culture. The good news is that we are moving towards a more self aware male culture. Men are embracing concepts like self-care, self-exploration and self-expression, like never before. This is such a positive step forward! We’d all benefit from fewer taboos around sex and sexuality for men.
Luckily, the whole cultural paradigm doesn’t need to shift before you can take control of your pleasure potential and learn how to master the multiple tantric orgasm!
Your Usual Orgasm vs Tantric Orgasm
From your first orgasm to the last one that you had, you have most likely been having the same sort of orgasm, time and again. They may all feel fantastic, but they are predictably the same. Many men find that they can become bored with their orgasms, and sex and masturbation can become lacklustre and dull. If only there was a different way! There is!
The usual way
The typical male orgasm is relatively simple: it starts with a thought or a touch, then physical arousal takes place (he gets hard) and with more direct stimulation, he will eventually orgasm (and ejaculate). Once he has ejaculated he will almost immediately begin to lose that erection, and he will enter a “refractory” rest period (on average about 20 minute) before his body will create another erection that can produce more ejaculate. Sound familiar? Well, it doesn’t have to be that way!
The multiple way
Imagine if you could get hard and stay hard longer, orgasm over and over without the refractory period and finally ejaculate with the most intense orgasm you’ve ever had? You can! Tantric orgasms are a whole different world compared to the usual male orgasm. You may think you have known pleasure, but this will put you into a whole new category of bliss.
Practice makes perfect
It’s important to remember though: multiple male orgasms are not as simple or reliable as normal orgasms, at least not at first. You may find that in the beginning, you need some practice before multiple male orgasms become a regular thing for you. This is a very good thing to do because you will, over time, re-train your mind and body to respond more patiently and thoroughly to the onset of arousal and orgasm. Practising your response to arousal, and not immediately seeking orgasm, will help to slow down the urgency and drive that your body feels when an orgasm is within reach. You will need to fight the urge to let go and come. If you’re ready, read on and you’ll learn how to keep all of that sexual energy in place until it’s finally time. You’ll learn how to master the multiple tantric orgasm. Let’s break it down step by step.
Master the Male Multiple Tantric Orgasm
This technique is simple and breaks down into three topics:
Achieving multiple orgasms for men is very possible, but for most, it requires some focus and practice. Do not be dismayed if you don’t achieve a deluge of orgasms on the first try, or even the second or third. That may sound like a bit of a deterrent, but don’t let it be. Think about how often you masturbate. Everyone is different but it’s very “normal”/average for men to masturbate to orgasm once or more per day. That means that if you gave yourself a week or two to learn how your body responds to tantric exercises, you could be well on your way to much, much better sex, masturbation and orgasms in general.
Make time for both your body and mind
You may be used to a quick rub and tug in the shower or wanking right before you go to bed; hurried, distracted, “maintenance” orgasms. They are enough to keep the pipes clean and satisfying enough that they ‘scratch the itch’. However, they pale in comparison to tantric orgasms. By employing some ancient tantric massage techniques, you too can have the orgasms of myth and legend.
Begin by committing some time to practising non-ejaculatory multiple orgasms. It needn’t be a huge amount of time, and you certainly don’t have to be alone. You can practice with your partner or by yourself, but do not use pornography for stimulation. Tantric practice is about turning your gaze inward, not externalising your desire. Give yourself a half hour to get into the mood, explore, focus and push yourself to wait for a bigger, better orgasm.
Touch yourself with intention
The sort of Tantric Edging that is required for non-ejaculatory multiple male orgasms is not simply idle touch. [You can read a whole how-to on Tantric Edging here] To achieve the state of Nirvana you are seeking you must be aware and tuned-in to how your body works and how it responds to touch. To begin, take a few quiet, uninterrupted minutes to observe your lingam (penis). Lay or sit comfortably, and watch your cock. Observe how it moves and how sensitive it is to touch and your thoughts. Begin to touch gently. Do not simply grasp your cock and start to pump! Touch the tip, the head, the thick edge before the shaft, the trunk and base. Use a soft touch and note how your cock responds. Touch softly and with curiosity. If something feels good, do it again, but be mindful of the rush of sensation that wants to drive you to the finish line. Breathing will help, but you need to know how.
Don’t forget to breathe
Tantric practice is all about mastery of the mind and the energy that is within, and moves through, our bodies. Breathing is a significant element of tantra and tantric massage. Thoughtful breathing has so many benefits but it does require some technique. Breathing is something we take for granted and don’t consider enough. If you have respiratory issues you may find this sequence of breathing difficult. Do what feels best for your body and don’t stress if it’s imperfect. Remember: this is about relaxation and opening up to receive pleasure. Don’t get too hung up on the details, just listen to your body.
The optimum deep breath for our purposes in tantric arousal is a slow, focused three-step breath. To begin, sit comfortably, relax your shoulders, let your hands be relaxed in your lap. Exhale out your mouth and close it without clenching your jaw.
- Inhale: Draw a breath in smoothly through your nose, silently, steadily, counting to four. Let your chest open and fill with air, but don’t hunch your shoulders up.
- Hold: Keep that breath in your chest and silently count to seven. The first time you may not make it to seven and that’s okay. As you repeat the pattern it will become easier.
- Exhale: Let your breath out through your mouth as you count to eight. Use the whole time and push all the breath out of your chest, steadily.
Repeat this process four times.
Using Tantric Edging
Once your breath is regulated and your body is in a receptive state, begin touching in time with your breathing: slow and steady. For now, resist the urge to speed up, strengthen your grip or provide too much stimulation to the tip/head. If you’re doing this with a partner, sync up your breathing and maintain as much eye contact as feels natural and comfortable.
As you near the edge, that feeling of urgency to just go go go until you come, slow down and let go if you need to, but keep your breathing steady. Repeat. As you’re learning to control the impulse to orgasm through edging, you’re getting closer to (non-ejaculatory) tantric orgasm.
From Edging to Multiple Tantric Orgasms
Once edging feels second nature and you feel you have conquered the impulse to come, it’s time to attempt a single tantric orgasm. If you achieve one, you will more than likely achieve several, because with tantric orgasms you skip the refractory period.
The key to multiple tantric orgasms is in the combination of acceleration and stopping at just the right moment. The essential thing to understand is that ejaculation does not cause orgasm. The orgasm is simply an incentive to ejaculate (from a biological/reproductive point of view). By pairing ejaculation with the intense pleasure of orgasm the species proliferates. But you can separate and unpair those events.
- Begin with a good 10 minutes or so of slow, passive stroking as you get your breathing regulated.
- Begin to edge, using your breath to help push you towards the precipice of orgasm before backing off but still constantly stimulating yourself.
- Get yourself quite close without speeding up, resist the urge to go hard and fast, keep it steady.
- As you approach the tipping point, you are going to allow yourself to orgasm, but not ejaculate. Do this by letting go of your penis, or by stopping the stroke with your hand at the base, and clenching your pelvic muscles as hard as you can as the sensation of orgasm washes over you.
- Try to keep your eyes open as you orgasm and breathe steadily. You may experience some leaking of pre-ejacualtory fluid or maybe even some semen, and that’s okay – Rome wasn’t built in a day!
- As the sensation of orgasm subsides, begin to stimulate yourself again, immediately working towards the edge of orgasm. Repeat the process as many times as you can or want to. You can choose to orgasm with ejaculation whenever you wish.
A note on pelvic/pelvic floor muscles
You’ve probably heard of Kegel exercises that women do to increase the strength and stamina of their pelvic floor. Men also have pelvic muscles that benefit from regular use and conditioning. The muscles to target are the ones you clench if you were to try to stop urinating, midstream. Regular clench-hold-release exercises a few minutes a day will make tantric orgasm easier and more enjoyable.
Shoot for the stars!
If you want to turbo charge your final orgasm when you ejaculate add in prostate stimulation. Known as the ‘sacred spot’ in tantric tradition, the prostate is a nerve-packed organ that takes orgasms into the stratosphere. You can experience subtle prostate stimulation by kneading and massaging the perineum leading up to, and during, orgasm. This will add dimension and intensity, but won’t completely blow your mind. For maximum effect, the prostate needs direct stimulation. Luckily it is easy to find and access through shallow finger (or toy) penetration. Different people enjoy different sensations against their prostate but steady pressure or a gentle nudging/tapping motion are good places to start. Be sure that any exploration into anal penetration includes lots of body safe lubrication, and if you’re using a toy, ensure that it has a wide, flared base that stays well outside the body, so it’s safe for insertion.
Rome wasn’t built in a day
Now you know how to master the multiple tantric orgasm. If you try these techniques and they don’t work perfectly for you at first, don’t despair. Like any kind of training and conditioning of the body and mind, it takes time to get reliably consistent results. If you were going to run a marathon you wouldn’t expect to run that distance the first time you tried. Tantric orgasm is a bit like a marathon for your genitals: you get to the prize with focus, determination and an increase in stamina.
Speaking of stamina, that is one of many benefits of learning tantric massage and tantric orgasm techniques: they will literally make you a better lover. Yes, self pleasure will be more interesting and mind blowing but think about applying these concepts, the deep breathing and patience and savouring of pleasure, with a partner. Imagine having multiple orgasms with a partner who is also having multiple orgasms? To say that tantric massage and tantric orgasms open up a new world of pleasure is not an exaggeration.
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