Premature ejaculation is an issue for between 25 to 30% of men in the UK.  It can be an upsetting and limiting condition, often with elusive and hard to diagnose causes. In many cases premature ejaculation and general erectile dysfunction can be mitigated with medication. But what if you aren’t interested in or able to take the medication? There are many remedies and ways to combat premature ejaculation, but none so successful and unobtrusive as tantric massage. If you suffer from this unpleasant condition, maybe it’s time to say hello tantric massage, goodbye premature ejaculation! Secret Tantric London can help! 

The topic of premature ejaculation can be a hard one to talk about. Most men don’t want to disclose that it’s an issue for them. Many don’t even discuss it with their doctor and avoid discussing it with their partner. Premature ejaculation is an issue for men of all ages, at all levels of fitness, from all backgrounds. Simply put, premature ejaculation does not discriminate. It can be an issue for any man and in most cases it can be treated or improved. The issue with premature ejaculation can be problematic for a person’s life for many different reasons. When our bodies don’t work as we would like them to, we are often upset or embarrassed. Upset and embarrassment are not necessary. Most men will go through a phase of life where premature ejaculation is a concern for them. Many of them will experience this in adulthood, not just adolescence.

What is premature ejaculation?

The definition of premature ejaculation is fairly self-explanatory. It is a compulsive ejaculation at an unwanted time. Many people relegate the idea of premature ejaculation to adolescent boys, not men. The fact of the matter is that millions of men experience it at one point or another. Because the emphasis on male orgasm is so high in our culture, premature ejaculation can seem like a failing, not just an inconvenience. Ultimately the sooner you stop thinking of it as a problem, and start working on a solution, the better off you’ll be. Most men would rather ignore the issue than seek help for it but if you’re intimate with another person, it can be very hard to disguise.

Emotional impact

Like all things related to sex, premature ejaculation is not just about the body.  Because part of the cultural definition of success is sexual activity and prowess, experiencing premature ejaculation can be emotionally crippling for many men. This is what breeds the secrecy and silence around this incredibly common and often treatable condition.  If men were more inclined to talk about it, and there was more general understanding and acceptance, fewer men and their relationships would have to suffer. Many men with premature ejaculatory issues simply pull back from sex and intimacy. They begin to avoid it, and so the shame and self-loathing grows. With tantric massage none of that is necessary! In fact tantric massage can often reverse or eliminate the problem.

Relationship impact

Premature ejaculation is not only a problem for the man experiencing it, it can have a profound impact on relationships as well. For some men the response from their partner regarding their premature ejaculation can solidify the negative thoughts they’ve been having themselves. If they are met with ridicule or shame upon ejaculating prematurely, most men will recoil and become more guarded about sex. It’s not uncommon for men with ejaculatory issues to stop initiating sex, become frustrated with their masturbatory habits, and express frustration about sex in general. This can have a very negative impact on intimate relationships. It’s important to remember that  premature ejaculation is no one’s fault. As a partner there may be things that you can do to help improve the situation.

Tantra can help 

Tantric massage is a treatment for the mind and body that has been used for centuries.  The root of tantric massage is focus, intention, and breathing. These are also things that can help reduce premature ejaculation and help men gain better control over their physical sexual responses. Luckily, you do not need to be an absolute expert to begin down a path of improvement through tantric or lingham massage.  You can utilize tantric massage on your own, as a masturbatory strategy. You can also explore tantric massage with a partner to the benefit of your ejaculation, as well as putting you both in the mood.

Physiology might be the problem

You may not know what is causing your premature ejaculation but that doesn’t mean that you can’t find the answer.  Erectile dysfunction, including premature ejaculation, can be physiological problems. If it’s been a while since you’ve had a complete physical, or you have existing issues with circulation or hormonal imbalance, premature ejaculation may be due to these conditions. When in doubt, always speak to your physician. They have undoubtedly treated this issue before and will have good suggestions for you. It never hurts to have some blood work done to make sure that everything is working as it should.

Emotional or mental blocks

For many men, sex is regarded as a highly physical experience. Men are less likely than women to consider that sexual dysfunction may be an emotional issue or a mental issue versus a physiological one.  It can be scary to explore the emotions and mental states that can cause premature ejaculation. Often it is easier to ignore the issue or pop a pill.  If a man with premature ejaculation issues is willing to look at his emotional and mental state as a possible source for the problem, he may find that it is more reversible than he expected.  How one feels about their body, their partner, or their general stress levels, can all have a major impact on ejaculation. Premature ejaculation is nothing to be ashamed of, it’s simply something to work with or fix. The choice is up to you.

Give yourself a hand

If you are a man experiencing premature ejaculation, and you’ve tried other things, or you’re looking for a non-invasive solution, look no further than tantric massage.  Applying tantric techniques to solo sex can be very effective when it comes to controlling ejaculation. The concept of edging aka bringing yourself to the brink of ejaculation and slowing down before you climax, is a technique as old as time. Tantric massage utilizes the body’s ability to approach orgasm and fall back from it. If you’re challenged by premature ejaculation, edging can be more difficult.  Trying a tantric massage on your own before incorporating a partner can be a good way to start. Give yourself some time and space to get used to some tantric techniques so that you can help guide your partner and work on the problem together.

Start slow

Tantric massage is not a fast moving process.  Instead of focussing on rigour and efficiency,  tantric massage is all about the journey, not just the destination.  A self-administered tantric massage may be just what you need to help change your premature ejaculatory patterns. Start by ensuring that you have sufficient time and privacy. How much time you’ll need to spend is up to you, but giving yourself 30 to 60 minutes to explore and edge is sufficient to start. If you can’t last that long, don’t worry! This learning process is a marathon not a sprint. 

First, just breathe

Most men are used to masturbation being very efficient and over almost as soon as it starts. Tantric massage and tantric masturbation requires that you take a slower pace and focus on more than just the urgency to climax. Find a comfortable position and begin by simply breathing. Tantric massage employs something called belly breaths, a deep breathing trick that helps flood your brain and body with oxygen and lowers your anxiety. Take a slow, deep breath in through your nose. Use 6-8 seconds to fill your lungs. Hold it for a count of 8 before slowly exhaling through your mouth for another count of 8.  Repeat this process 4 times. This breathing technique should help you feel centred and calm. It may also make your body feel extra sensitive and alive. Bask in the sensations for a few minutes, continuing to breathe slowly and deeply as you begin to touch your body.

Touch Your Penis last

Use your hands to touch yourself, but avoid your genitals at first. Instead, seek out different erogenous zones. For men the primary erogenous zones are the neck and ears, as well as the chest and groin. Run your hands through your hair, let your fingertips move down your neck and across your chest. Use the heel of your hand to slowly knead your stomach and pelvic area.  Massage your thighs and slowly make your way back to your genitals.  Deep breathing and sensual but non-sexual touch is key here. By avoiding touching your penis at this point, you are inviting your body to become highly aroused without the threat of premature ejaculation.  Spend as much time with this total-body touch as you wish.  If it isn’t too much for you, you may also want to touch your testes, perineum and buttocks. Pay attention to your body’s response; this is not the point where you want to be too excited.

Trial and error may be necessary

Once you have explored your body in a sensual, but not entirely sexual way, begin to touch yourself. At this point do your best to resist fast stroking or hard pumping out of your penis.  Chances are you are already very aware of what parts of your penis are most sensitive and what your ‘come triggers’ are.  At first it’s important to avoid sensitive spots because you don’t want to go off too soon. Focus on your breathing and how you’re touching yourself.  As you become more aroused, slow down. When you feel that tightening sensation that comes before the rush of ejaculating, let go with your hand. Back off, catch your breath, do some more belly breaths before you start again. Repeat this process as many times as you like. Most men find the edging process incredibly enjoyable and highly effective at helping them curb their premature ejaculation.

Involve your partner

Once you’re feeling fluent in tantric massage alone, you may wish to involve your partner.  Having a good idea of what works for you and what is helpful is a good idea before trying to articulate to her what you need. Offer to give her a tantric massage and lead her through the focussed breathing as a way of extending your arousal without the threat of ejaculation. Or, if you’re both open-minded enough, consider booking a couples’ tantric massage. Many of our gorgeous masseuses provide couples tantric massage in Park Lane as well. Both you and your partner will be teased and tantalized together, and separately, until the point of no return.

Seek out a professional

If you’re really ready to say hello tantric massage, goodbye premature ejaculation, visiting a tantric masseuse could be the answer. Our masseuses are highly trained, and incredibly skilled. They study anatomy and physiology, as well as specific tantric massage techniques to support all sorts of client issues. Premature ejaculation is a common reason for men to seek out tantric massage. Your limitations, be they emotional, mental, or physical, will always be met with understanding and respect at Secret Tantric. Our masseuses are sensitive and intelligent women who care about their clients and genuinely want to make you feel good. You will never face ridicule, mockery or any other negative responses from our masseuses. Instead, you will be welcome, made to feel comfortable and safe, and given an experience you will never forget.

In conclusion

Coming to grips with premature ejaculation can be a hard challenge to face. Many men are deeply ashamed and saddened by ejaculatory issues, some going so far as to feel like they are less of a man or a failure.  There is no shame or failure in premature ejaculation. It is a mostly  reversible condition  that can be effectively managed and improved true tantric massage. Whether you put these techniques to use at home, privately or with a partner, or You seek out the services of a professional at Secret Tantric,  it is important to remember that premature ejaculation is not a lost cause.  Have patience with yourself, be courageous in sharing your plate, and seek out the help and support that you need. Your doctor or a therapist Maybe an integral part to finding a solution, but so maybe your local tantric masseuse.  There’s no harm in trying an ancient tantric massage technique that has worked for centuries, especially if you’re trying to avoid popping pills. However you approach your premature ejaculation, remember that you’re not alone, it probably won’t last forever, and you’re just as much a man as you’ve always been.

What are you waiting for?

It’s one thing to read about the sensual massage experience, to learn about the process and all of the details, but it is something else entirely to have your own. There’s no reason to hesitate, simply pick up the phone and give us a ring and we will have you set up for the time of your life within minutes . Whether you seek deep tissue relaxation or a slippery sexy happy ending massage, Secret Tantric has what you need. And we know how to give it to you!  Call us today to set up your appointment. You will not regret it!

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