A tantric yoni massage is a fantastic experience that can lead to increased sexual satisfaction, relaxation, and healing. It opens up a whole new world of possibilities, but where do you even start? Booking an appointment, of course. But before you do, you’re probably curious about what is expected of you as the client. Here are some basic guidelines for those interested in a tantric yoni experience.

What is a Yoni Massage?

Yoni is from the Sanskrit word for the vulva. A Yoni Massage’s primary, but not the sole focus, is on the vulva and vagina. Though, it doesn’t usually start with a masseuse’s hands going immediately between your thighs. There is a lot more build-up to it than that.

Other body parts are massaged first as part of the process. Eventually, though, the masseuse will begin using her hands and fingers to stimulate your vulva, vagina, and perineum. While at its most basic, this part feels like very deliberate and intentional fingering, immediate orgasm—while likely for many—isn’t the primary goal.

A Tantric Yoni Massage is about awakening the body and preparing you for an overall more satisfying sex life in the future. Through breathing and intention, as well as the expert touch of your masseuse, you awaken your sexual potential. Your masseuse will use natural oils to massage around and on your vulva, as well as penetrate your vagina using their skilled fingers. Yoni massage is intentional, slow, and gentle and will only proceed at pace with your comfort level.

It’s an intense experience that can be practised at home, but anything worth doing is worth doing right. Having a professional perform a Yoni Massage is a worthwhile investment in your overall sexual health. It can provide a whole host of benefits, such as overcoming difficulty achieving orgasm and even healing from past trauma.

Who Needs a Yoni Massage?


If you have yoni, you owe it to yourself to experience a Yoni Massage. You don’t need to be any particular age—other than over 18 years old. It’s an experience for all body types, sexualities, or gender identities. All you need to get a Yoni Massage is a yoni and an open mind.

The reasons to get one are as numerous and varied as the number of yonis out there. You might be seeking out a sensual or sexual thrill, an alternative treatment for vaginismus, or looking to explore your sexuality. It can be used as part of post-natal recovery or as a way to relieve menstrual pain. You could be looking for a different way to help heal from past trauma, or maybe you’re just interested in mind-blowing, toe-curling orgasms at the hands of an expert. These are only a few reasons you might need a Yoni Massage, and all of them are perfectly acceptable.

Whatever motivates you, you deserve to feel good and to relax. You may be interested in the higher, more spiritual aspects of tantra or just seeking pleasure. And there’s nothing wrong with any of it.

Does A Lesbian Massage Make Me A Lesbian?

A Yoni Massage only says as much about your sexuality as you want it to. Most women who seek out a Tantric Yoni Massage prefer to have it performed by another woman. That’s regardless of whether they’re lesbian, bi, straight, curious, or otherwise, especially when it’s sought out for purposes that aren’t just about sexual gratification. (But again, there’s nothing wrong with just wanting a pleasurable experience from another woman, even if you’re straight.) 

The massage you get from a Secret Tantric girl is a transactional relationship. It’s one of the benefits of working with a professional. If you want that to be part of exploring your sexuality, that’s great. Still, it doesn’t have to be anything more than receiving the services of a professional.

No Shame or Judgement Here

It’s unfortunate that there’s a lot of shame associated with sex, sexuality, and especially vaginas. It’s understandable that you might have some conflicting feelings about receiving such an intimate massage. Still, if you’ve made it this far and are reading this, you owe it to yourself to give it a try.

At Secret Tantric, you’ll be working with discreet professionals who are here to serve you and your needs. There’s a lot of cultural baggage to unpack, but luckily, the Yoni Massage can help with that. Connecting with the sacred part of yourself is one way to unlearn some of the negative associations you might have.

Spending an hour (or more) with someone whose primary focus is on your pleasure and well-being can open so many doors for you. All you have to do is be a respectful and courteous client.

And here’s how.

Finding The Right Girl

There are several Secret Tantric girls to choose from who perform Yoni Massage. Please select the one that works best for you, and then be ready to have an open conversation with her about what your wants and needs are to make sure she’s the right fit for you. Be prepared to discuss where you’ll be in your menstrual cycle, any injuries or issues you might be having, and what you seek to get out of the experience. Let them know if you have anything like pain or discomfort during penetration. 

Don’t be shy. This isn’t about justifying it to someone else. The conversation is so your masseuse can tailor your experience to you and your needs and desires. If you’re interested in the spiritual or healing aspects, say that. If you just want someone to make you climax, say that.

Your masseuse wants this to be a positive and enjoyable experience for you. The best way to achieve that is to be as straightforward as possible. 

The pre-massage consultation is essential. While continued communication during the massage might be necessary as your comfort level might change, be honest about your expectations at the start. Also, be ready to listen as your masseuse discusses her boundaries. The massage will be quite intimate, but there are still limits.

Consent is Vital

Customer satisfaction is the goal, but that doesn’t give the customer free rein to do whatever they please. While the services provided are sensual and sexual, your masseuse is still in control of her own body. She’ll discuss with you what, if any, touching of her is permissible during the course of your massage. This conversation is held prior to the massage so the session can proceed as seamlessly and enjoyably as possible.

Just as she’ll honour your boundaries and consent, the same is expected of you. If you are ever in doubt, you can simply ask for your masseuse to pause while you clarify.

Prepare Yourself

There are a few things you can do ahead of your appointment to ensure your comfort and make the experience the most pleasurable for you and your masseuse. 

  • Be well-hydrated
  • Have a light meal with carbs and protein a few hours before your session
  • Be well-rested.
  • Stretch

Respect Her Time

Your time and money are valuable, and the same is true for your masseuse. Make sure to show up to your appointment on time, and if there’s any reason for a delay or you need to cancel, communicate that as soon as possible. Understand that she may have other clients booked that day, so your session could be cut short if you’re late. Being on time allows you to get the most out of your appointment as possible.

But don’t rush her. Your masseuse is an experienced professional and understands how to use her time accordingly. Watching the clock will only pull your focus away from the massage and make it harder to enjoy. Relax and let her do her work.

While you may take a shower after your massage, make sure you do so quickly. Just as your appointment time is valuable, the same is true for other clients as well.

A Clean Sweep

Most massages through Secret Tantric are in-call, meaning they’re performed in the masseuse’s home. While you are a client, you’re also a house guest. Be prepared to act accordingly.

Part of the cultural baggage to unpack come with the idea that vaginas are inherently dirty. But that’s no more true than any other part of the body. There’s no need to be waxed or manicured. All that is required of you is a standard good shower before your massage. Even if you showered earlier that day, you’ll be asked to do so again. If you require any special toiletries, be sure to bring them, but avoid strong scents that can be off-putting to someone else.

Be Prepared To Pay

So you’ve booked your appointment. You’ve showered. You’ve discussed what you want out of the massage and your masseuse’s boundaries. What’s next? It’s time to pay.

Payment must be made directly to your masseuse before the massage can begin. Please have your cash payment prepared. Prices for the various services and lengths of massage are listed under each girl’s individual profile.

Common Sense Etiquette

Just because this service involves some very intimate touching doesn’t mean it’s all that different from receiving any other type of service. Basic courtesies still apply. Be kind and courteous to your masseuse.

Follow these basic guidelines, and you should have a wonderful experience. Be the kind of client that gets to come back again and again because, after your first Yoni Massage, you’re going to want another. 

What Are You Waiting For?

Whether it’s for healing, exploration, or pleasure, you owe it to yourself to try a Tantric Yoni Massage. Explore the website, find the right masseuse for you, and get the Tantric Yoni Massage you deserve. 

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