Getting a tantric massage is an incredible experience. But researching and planning to get a  tantric massage can be nerve-racking if you don’t know what to expect. First-time clients are always filled with questions before their session. But no question occurs more frequently than “Do you ejaculate during a tantric massage?”.  You may think that you know the answer, but you may be surprised! Read on to learn more about what to expect from your first tantric massage. 

The question “Do you ejaculate during a tantric massage?” is a bit misleading. Using the term ejaculate seems to suggest that tantric massage is an experience that is only for men. Well this is not categorically true, it’s much more common for men to seek out and purchase time with a tantric therapist for a tantric massage that it is for women. Still, it’s a valid question.

Happy Endings

For clarity, a happy ending massage refers to an exotic or erotic massage that ends with climax. This is usually achieved by stimulating or over-stimulating the client throughout the massage until they reach the end of their tether and disrupt in a long-awaited and much anticipated orgasm.  The term happy ending has also become synonymous for cheap and tawdry rub and tug style massage parlours.  By suggesting that I massage has a happy ending, most people are trying to imply that it is not a true massage, but a thinly veiled sex act. Well all of these things are true and none of them are mutually exclusive, we can only speak for ourselves. Here at secret tantric our massages do include real massage and they often involve  Climax, which in no way cheapens the experience. 

Why wouldn’t the ending be ‘happy’?

For all the fellas out there wondering  if a tantric massage has a requisite happy ending, the short answer is no.  Whether or not a tantric massage or any form of erotic massage has a happy ending  has to do with three main factors:


  •  local legislation on erotic massage
  •  the masseuses personal  and/or professional boundaries
  •  the client’s personal boundaries


As the client, your boundaries and consent will always be honoured. Likewise the boundaries and consent of your masseuse should always be honoured by you. Whether or not a tantric massage and an orgasm has no bearing on what should or shouldn’t be allowed in the massage itself. This is why at secret tantric all of our appointments begin with a brief consultation between the client and the masseuse to establish boundaries and to make decisions together about things like how the massage will end.


There are so many ways to feel good

As tantric practitioners we are well aware that orgasm is not the be-all end-all when it comes to pleasure. You may find that during a tantric massage the pleasure is so overwhelming that you won’t want it to end,  that is to say you may not want to orgasm.  if this seems counter-intuitive, that’s perfectly normal. If the only route to intense pleasure you’ve ever experienced is orgasm, then your mind and body will tell you that’s all there is. We are here to help you understand and help you access different levels of pleasure. We do this through different kinds of breathwork, sensual touch, communication with you, and of course a lot of teasing and edging. 

Is orgasm denial the new orgasm?

For those who are unfamiliar with the term orgasm denial, it is exactly what you think it is. Orgasm denial involves a person nearing orgasm through mental or physical stimulation, over and over until they are at a point of no return. Some people practice this edging technique of getting close to coming and resisting as a form of masturbation. Other folks use this as a play full sexual tactic with in their relationship, where one person controls the other person’s orgasm. However you approach orgasm denial, edging and resisting the need to ejaculate immediately, is a foundational part of tantric therapy.  By approaching orgasm and backing off multiple times, both the brain and body can be rewired to respond differently to stimuli and orgasm itself. This can be especially helpful for people who are working through erectile dysfunction or have troubles orgasming.

Come and get your pleasure

Whether or not you decide to ejaculate during a tantric massage is entirely up to you. If you have never tried tantric massage and you are curious about it, don’t let the fear of ejaculating in the middle of your session put you off. Our masseuses have literally seen it all, and they are asking what they at what they do so they will be able to help you navigate through the experience and get the most out of it. Start your tantric exploration off on the right foot by visiting us at Secret Tantric  and we will teach you all of the ins-and-outs of an incredible tantric massage.

Help us help you

If you are ready to reap the benefits of seeing a tantric therapist, give us a call. Here at Secret Tantric we are committed to answering all of your questions.  We want to make tantric therapy accessible and available for everyone. Give us a call today. A visit to a tantric therapist can put you on a path to self improvement and sexual freedom. 

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