This is our beginner’s guide to an erotic prostate massage, a guidebook to help you manage expectations before, during and after your session. We understand that an experience like an erotic prostate massage can be mysterious or overwhelming to new clients. We want you to feel confident and well-equipped for your session so we have put together this helpful beginners guide. We’ve included everything you need to know about erotic prostate massage, what to expect, and all of the fantastic benefits. Are you looking for tips and tricks to make your first prostate massage appointment spectacular? We’ve got you covered!

Erotic prostate massage is an area of erotic body work that is growing exponentially. Here at Secret Tantric, prostate massage has always been a popular item on our massage menu. Recently we have seen an uptick in appointments for these incredibly exciting treatments. Whether it’s your first time or you consider yourself well versed, this beginner’s guide to an erotic prostate massage has something for everyone, and hopefully gives you lots to consider.

What is an erotic prostate massage?

Erotic massage is an umbrella term for any kind of massage that focuses on arousal end/ or orgasms. Beneath that umbrella there are more specific forms of erotic massage, one of which is prostate massage.  In order to understand the impact and value of prostate massage, first we must understand the impact and value of the prostate itself.  So what is this mysterious organ and why is everyone so excited to touch it?

What is the prostate?

The prostate is a small organ in the male reproductive system.  This small organ is roughly the size and shape of a walnut, situated above the testes near the bladder.  The primary function of the prostate is to produce seminal fluid,  the nourishing viscous liquid that  makes up the bulk of male ejaculate.  Without the prostate, there would be no ejaculation! Not surprisingly this specialised organ  fluctuates based on desire and arousal. The prostate can be reached via the anus and rectum and stimulating it has an intensely pleasurable effect.

Why would someone want to massage their prostate?

In simplest terms:  because  it feels good.  When the prostate is engorged prior to ejaculation, it becomes sensitive. Touching or massaging it can increase pleasure and increase arousal. Not only that, orgasms caused by prostate stimulation tend to be longer-lasting, more intense, and yield a far greater volume of semen than a regular orgasm. But if it feels this good, why isn’t it more common?

But doesn’t it hurt?

Easily the greatest misconception about anal penetration is that it has to hurt. This could not be further from the truth. In fact, when done properly, anal penetration should not hurt at all. The key is twofold:  you must have patience,  and you must have a lot of lubrication.  If the fear of physical pain is holding you back from trying prostate massage, we encourage you to forge ahead. The fear of pain is a valid reason to be nervous, it is easily mitigated with common sense and lube. 


Expect some New Sensation

If you are not well-versed in prostate play or anal penetration, you are in for a whole host of  new sensations. Because of the prostate’s proximity to the bladder, when it becomes engorged, or when it’s pressed upon, you may feel a sense of urgency like you do before you have to urinate. For many people the fear of peeing themselves is enough for them to stop and never try again. But if you’re afraid of peeing yourself it’s hard to relax and it’s hard to stay aroused. Good news: Unless your bladder is already full to bursting, that urgent sensation is inaccurate and is not actually your bladder, so no need to worry. 

Pressure is okay, pain is not

There really is no reason to endure pain as part of prostate massage.  If you are adequately relaxed,  and aroused,  penetration is very manageable.  In order to reach the prostate, fingers or a toy inserted into the rectum can press it easily. You’ll know when it has been reached because you will feel a strong but not unpleasant pressure above and behind the testes. Initially the sensation can be off-putting, but a few slow deep breaths will allow you to feel intense pleasure as you begin to relax. Lubrication is key as it will allow penetration without damage or tearing. Remember, the anus and rectum are not self-lubricating like a woman’s vagina. When in doubt use more lube and go slow.

Forget what you’ve been told

Prostate play is not something that is commonly recommended or encouraged, especially among straight men. There are many social hang-ups around prostate stimulation and anal stimulation because of its association with homosexuality. Certainly, your sexuality will not be changed or influenced if you try an anal activity like erotic prostate massage. Sadly, many men will go their whole lives without this fantastic sexual experience because of social stigma and social conditioning. These kinds of precondition thoughts are all the more reason for visiting a professional! 

Your secret is safe with us

When you see one of our erotica masseuses, you can be assured that we take your privacy and discretion seriously. Almost all our sessions are in call massages, meaning that our masseuses work from their luxurious London flats and our clients travel to them. At first glance this may seem less convenient for the client, but we assure you, it is better overall. Because you are meeting your masseuse in a private residence, as you come and go you look like any other tenant or guest.  Your privacy is of the utmost importance to us because we want you to be comfortable and confident with our services. No one needs to ever know and your secrets are always safe at Secret Tantric.

Considerations before an erotic prostate massage

Prostate massage comes with one small liability:  the potential for mess.  Bear in mind that our masseuses have certainly seen at all, but that doesn’t mean they don’t appreciate some preparation on your part. We recommend that you are well hydrated in the days leading up to your session and that you evacuate your bowels 2 to 3 hours before you arrive. This will  mitigate  the risk of your session getting messy.  Not only is the mess itself unpleasant, you really don’t need the added embarrassment and discomfort. By taking a few preventative steps, you can stride into your appointment with confidence knowing you’ll be squeaky clean. 

The beginning of your session

The process of an erotic prostate massage is fairly simple. When you initially call in, we will answer all of your questions about your upcoming massage and book you into the schedule of the masseuse of your choice.  Upon arrival you will be greeted by your masseuse and invited in for a brief consultation. The two of you will sit down and discuss the session, what you’re looking for, and what she’s able to offer, so you can confirm all the details. Once the appointment is organised, you will pay upfront and take a requisite shower. Then your massage will begin.

The massage itself

While you’re in the shower, your masseuse will take those moments to put the final touches on the massage space. Erotic prostate massage is a full body to body massage that includes additional prostate play. Your masseuse will begin with sensual and erotic touch, relaxing and arousing you, teasing and edging you. All our sessions last a full 60 minutes. Most of this time will be spent  warming you up for the exceptional climax that comes from erotic prostate massage.  Your massage will be slick and slippery with luxurious massage oils and your masseuse will communicate with you clearly as she begins the prostate portion of the massage. There’s nothing at all to worry about, you are in great hands. 

Working towards climax

A common technique in erotic massage is edging.  Many people think of edging as a strictly masturbatory technique, but it is a common  tactic in tantric and erotic massage, the world over. Edging involves stimulating the genitals, and in this case the prostate as well, until the person is at the edge of orgasm. Then the stimulation is slowed, the spike of arousal slowly begins to drop, and the process begins again.  Over and over the person is brought to the brink of climax and is allowed to catch their breath. This process repeats many times, each time taking less energy to get to the edge. This is a perfect formula for compounding desire and multiplying pleasure before a triumphant prostate orgasm.

The prostate orgasm difference

A regular body to body massage without prostate stimulation, still ends with a happy ending. But when you add prostate play to arousal and orgasm, the potential for pleasure becomes almost exponential. Prostate stimulation will intensify and increase arousal unlike anything else.

The prostate is responsible for the volume of seminal fluid,  which makes up the bulk of semen. When stimulated, the prostate drains during orgasm, known as prostate milking. Stimulation of the prostate milks every drop of  seminal fluid resulting in an outstandingly powerful orgasm. 

Bring your partner

Book a session with one of our masseuses and receive a massage from a pro. We offer couples massage  which allows you and your partner to enjoy a massage with one of our tantric goddesses. A couples massage can be an incredibly affirming activity for your relationship, and you will no doubt learn a few things you can take home with you to try in the bedroom.  If you are more of a classroom learner, we also offer seminars and workshops on erotic, sensual, and tantric massage skills, taught by well respected tantric healers in the UK. Give us a call today and set up a massage experience that’s right for you and your partner. 

What are you waiting for?

If you are ready to reap the benefits of prostate play while seeing a tantric therapist, give us a call. We want to make tantric therapy accessible and available for everyone. Give us a call today. A visit to a tantric therapist can put you on a path to self improvement and sexual freedom. 

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